While I am far from woke, I really want to learn.
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The One Who Got Me
Fact is, my whole family was sufficiently fractious and dysfunctional that generational differences were swamped by more direct issues.
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Sleep, How Strange It Is
The miracle of going back to sleep.
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Sleepytime Playlist on Spotify Music
Every night my routine for getting to sleep is to play my Sleepytime playlist from Spotify. That’s really what I call it: “Sleepytime.” I’ve been curating this playlist for ten years. It contains more than 1200 tracks, virtually all classical music, including a lot of renaissance vocal music. It’s music with relatively constant sound levels, no abrupt or loud passages, and calming tempos. Yet each has enough counterpoint and musical interest to distract me from the mundane thoughts and worries that would otherwise keep me awake. I play it from my iPhone into my bedroom stereo and set the timer to “Stop Playing” when it reaches the end.
I have a degree in music and musicology and I’ve spent my whole life listening critically to good music. Sleepytime is not your usual collection of syrupy adagios and bargain-bin performances. It’s all high-quality music. I have obscure tastes so there’s plenty of composers and compositions here you’ve probably never heard of before–Palestrina, Dufay, Ligeti, Willaert in addition to Bach, Haydn, Mozart, Chopin. Every track rewards careful and repeated listening. Every track is the best performance I can find on Spotify.
A strange thing happens in my head every night. I set the timer to 22 minutes and put the Sleepytime playlist on shuffle. For the first ten minutes or so I’m listening intently, focusing on the details of the music. But as sleep begins to take over, I start hallucinating images and voices and enter a strange hypnagogic state, halfway between waking and dreaming. I’m still aware of the music but also aware that I’m hallucinating, and for a while I can switch back and forth. It’s a weird feeling. I gradually sink into the dream images and lose all awareness of the music. On a good night, by the time music stops I’m fully asleep and don’t notice.
Here’s the Sleepytime Playlist. It’s private in the sense that I built this only for me, but it’s publicly available to download for anybody with a Spotify subscription and I’ll be flattered if other people find it useful. (I added **S** to the title so I can spot this playlist among all the other playlists on my iPhone without my glasses.)
Night Demons
The demons barge into my brain at three a.m., check for messages, make coffee.
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A Senior Sleep Routine
Preparing to go to sleep for most of my life was as easy as rolling into bed ... now it almost warrants a checklist.
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An Intern’s Prayer retroflash
I have spent years of my life trying to come to terms with on-call sleep deprivation.
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Sweet Dreams Are Made of This
She captioned the needlepoint "Hobby Time" because when I was asked what my hobbies were, I generally said "sleeping."
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Bedtime Rituals
As a child, I remember being told, “go to bed.” This meant brush your teeth and use the bathroom. Whether or not my parents read to me is a lost memory. If I had trouble falling asleep, the remedy was a glass of warm milk.
The first actual bedtime rituals I remember were for my children. Once they were ready, my husband and I read to them every night, even when they were old enough to read themselves. This was precious time for me, and hopefully for them. As teens, they often went to bed much later than we did, but our youngest did have some issues falling asleep and needed music or television to ease her into sleep.
Now, going to bed is a production for me. Pills to take, special face wash followed by nighttime skin cream. Tooth brushing and flossing, waterpik, and mouth rinse. Hearing aids removed and cleaned. Volteren gel for the bone spur on my toe. Hand cream. Night guard for my teeth. I’ve probably forgotten something, as I usually do. It feels like it takes forever for us to get into bed. Then, it takes a book or boring television show (Finding Your Roots is perfect) to actually fall asleep. I guess this is the equivalent of the bedtime stories I read to my kids.
I miss the days of quickly washing my face, brushing my teeth, and falling into bed. Oh well … sweet dreams until I wake up three hours later and drift in and out of sleep for the rest of the night.
Wild Things We Are
"I had a stormy rant ready, but...."
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