Talking To Strangers Is A Philosophy

Talking to strangers can be a valuable and enriching experience. It helps me to:

  • Expand my horizons and learn about different perspectives and experiences.
  • Challenge my biases and assumptions.
  • Build new relationships and connections.
  • Increase my empathy and understanding of others.
  • Gain new insights into the world around me

Of course, there are also risks associated with talking to strangers. However, these risks can be mitigated by being aware of my surroundings and trusting my gut instincts. If I feel uncomfortable in a situation I’ve leaned to just walk away.

Overall, I believe that the benefits of talking to strangers outweigh the risks. By opening myself up to new people and new experiences, I have made my life richer and more fulfilling.

In addition to the above, I would also add that talking to strangers can be a way of overcoming social anxiety. By gradually exposing ourselves to others I have learned to relax and be more comfortable in social situations.

Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to talk to strangers is a personal one. However, I encourage everyone to step outside of their comfort zone and give it a try. You may be surprised at the positive experiences you have.

Passed Out in the Library

Passed Out in the Library

The last thing I remember was locking the door of the high school library at the end of the day.  And then inexplicably I found myself seated at my desk, confused,  and with an aching head.

I had no memory of walking back to my office and sitting down at my desk before I passed out,  a phenomenon later explained to me as post-traumatic amnesia.

Realizing I was alone in the library and not well,  I lifted the phone on my desk and called for help.  Someone came and escorted me,  still dazed,  to the principal’s office.   David,  my principal,  and a good friend,  called my husband.  (See Magazines for the Principal – for David F  and Mr October)

”Danny,  what do you think of those Yankees?”,  I remember hearing David ask Danny on the phone.   And then after a little more sports talk –  the two of them big fans – I heard David tell Danny not to be alarmed but I had fainted in the library and shouldn’t drive myself home.  “In fact I think you should take her to the hospital.”  he said.

Danny came to get me and we drove to the local Bronx ER where I underwent a few tests as well as an MRI to rule out stroke and other serious conditions.

It happened MRIs were done in another building  and thus I was wheeled out of the hospital on a gurney to that other location a few yards away.  It was drizzling and so I was covered with a sheet head to toe.  When Danny saw that he thought I was dead,  and until I was able to assure him otherwise,  he was rather upset!

After awaiting the test results and worrying a bit,  I was diagnosed with low blood sugar and advised not to go too long without eating,  nor to skimp on meals.

They kept me overnight for observation,  and discharged me the next day.   Then, to avoid another low blood sugar fainting episode,  we went to City Island for a fabulous seafood dinner!

– Dana Susan Lehrman

I asked myself …

empty library in the style of edeard hopper

 

I asked myself ‘What would a world without libraries be like’?

A world without libraries would be a world with less access to information, less education, and less opportunity. Libraries provide free access to books, computers, and the internet for people of all ages and backgrounds. They also offer a variety of programs and services, such as story times for children, computer classes for adults, and job search assistance.

Without libraries, many people would be unable to afford to buy books or access the internet. This would make it difficult for them to learn new things, stay informed, and find jobs. Libraries also play an important role in promoting literacy and a love of reading. Without them, children would be less likely to develop the skills they need to succeed in school and in life.

In addition to their educational and informative roles, libraries also serve as important community gathering places. They provide a safe and welcoming space for people to come together to read, learn, and connect with others. Without libraries, communities would be less vibrant and less inclusive.

Here are some specific examples of the negative consequences of a world without libraries:

  • Students would have less access to books and other resources for their schoolwork.
  • Adults would have fewer opportunities to learn new skills and knowledge.
  • Researchers would have difficulty accessing the information they need to conduct their work.
  • People would be more likely to rely on unreliable or biased sources of information.
  • Communities would be less connected and less vibrant.

Overall, a world without libraries would be a world with less access to information, less education, and less opportunity.

Marble School Library

The library was on the basement floor of that old 1934 two-story dark brick building in a small windowless room, maybe 12 by 15 feet.  Its walls were lined with bookshelves, neatly organized into the Dewey decimal system
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Crossing the Picket Line

I was raised in Michigan during the era when Walter Reuther advocated for workers’ rights, universal health care, public education, and affordable housing and the UAW was seen as a sacred, progressive union in my home. He and George Meany cofounded the AFL-CIO in 1955. Unions brought prosperity to middle class families, many of whom were part of the auto industry. So, strikes were an inevitable but good thing, as they brought equity and prosperity to people living in my neck of the woods. Crossing a picket line was unforgivable and unthinkable, until it affected my ability to survive.

In 1967, I started my first post-college job teaching English at Niles East High School in Skokie, Illinois. As a late summer hire, I had no time to get grounded in school politics. I’m pretty sure I automatically joined the teachers’ union because it was a reflex to do so, given my upbringing. My memory is hazy about this, but at some point that year, negotiations between the school board and the teachers’ union stalled, and the teachers authorized a strike. I don’t even remember what all of the issues were. I assume higher pay was one of them, as I was earning $6,000/year.

But here’s the thing. My meager salary as a teacher was also putting my husband through medical school. We had no savings and were living paycheck to paycheck. I was in a panic, trapped between my reverence for unions and workers’ rights and the need to receive my full salary to survive. Would I cross a picket line for that paycheck? As a new teacher, I knew that action would make me a pariah. Thankfully, the school board settled at the last minute averting the strike. Thus, I was never forced to cross a picket line to survive financially.

I remain pro-union politically, and it is easy for me to sympathize with Hollywood writers, actors, Starbucks baristas, and auto workers. But other strikes are a bit more painful to support. Medical personnel and teachers are ones that come to mind. Teachers’ strikes are always hard because children are the ones most harmed. Still, my heart is always with the teachers, especially the ones who forego their salaries for extended periods of time. Having been there once, I don’t know how I would have survived. On the other hand, as a parent and grandparent, I have felt the pain and disruption these strikes bring to children and working parents.

In retrospect, I would like to think I would not have crossed that picket line in 1967. It still shakes me to this day that I’m not 100% sure.

 

1969

Imagine being in that stadium with thousands of other university students and faculty, all roused up, politically aware, wanting a path forward.  The emotional energy was contagious and overwhelming.  Surely the concerns of so many people coming together could not be denied. 
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