My grandmother was quite a woman. A gardener, a fantastic cook, a healer, and for this granddaughter – the best grandmother ever. I felt she died too young for my development into womanhood in our family. I was 16, she was in her 70’s. I missed her immensely and to this day when I garden I offer the garden up to her spirit in an act of gratitude. Whenever I needed her intervention with my Mom and I asked her for that help – she would always say “be careful what you ask for, you just might get it”. She said this in a slightly warning, slightly encouraging, slightly sarcastic way as she slightly shook her head side to side. This saying influenced me for years well after her death. Their have been a few times when I did not ask for what I wanted because of fear of outcome and times I did ask and wish I had not. Because of my contemplating that sentence I learned to be more clear about asking for life to deliver – and when I am specific and have clarity the universe provides. So although at times I felt that sentence confused me more than helped me – she actually taught me to think the ASK through and that has served me well.